Thursday, 5 July 2012

July Blog

July Blog

Just Unconditionally Love Yourself


Stop what you’re doing

Sit down

And relax.

Just take a long, slow, deep breath in,

Through your nose,

Followed by a longer, slow breath out,

Through your mouth.

Just continue breathing in with a long, slow, deep breath through your nose

And as you breathe out

Just think


Let your shoulders relax.

Repeat this several times.

Feeling better now?




Without conditions,

Without judgements,

Without barriers,

Without excuses.

Just let them

Melt away,

Like puddles on a sunny day


Just evaporate

Your self judgements,

Your barriers,

Your excuses,

Your doubts,

Your negative thoughts,

Your personal put downs.

Just let them go

Be unconditional to yourself.

Love yourself

Just take time now

To recall

Great memories,





As you replay each one

Really be in that film.

See it again with your own eyes.

Hear all those sounds again.

Feel in fully throughout your whole body.

Recall the exact time when it happened.

Do that again and again.

Recalling all those wonderful, pleasant times,

And in the recollection

Just be aware of how that makes you feel.

Learn from them.

Learn to love yourself

Once again.


You + self

Just take more time to think about loving yourself more.

Be interested in yourself.

Be excited about yourself.

Be enthusiastic

Be proud

Be alert

Be inspired

Be determined

Be attentive

Be active about yourself.

Just take the  time

To make yourself,

The No.1 priority for a change,

And when you do

Have a fantastic


Just Unconditionally Love Yourself.

Monday, 11 June 2012

June Blog

June Blog

Just  the other day I was in the lovely village of Dent.

Just imagine seeing green meadows,

Rolling hills,

Feel the warm sunshine

On your face,

Smell spring in the air,

Newly baked bread,

The touch of the warm walls,

Hearing the birdsong

And the gentle warm breeze.

Hear the babble of the beck,

The occasional baa-ing of the lambs

And the mooing cows sitting in the shade.

It was a timeless zone.

The streets echoed a bygone age.

Being somewhere,

With no traffic,

No hustle and bustle,

Time to unwind.


That’s the thing to do.

Unburden the thoughts,

Undo the anxiety,

Unleash the joy of relaxation.

Nurture yourself,

Nestled in the narrow streets of Dent.

Knowing a sense of safety and security,

Positively around you,

Beneath the rolling hillsides,

Like arms outstretched ,

To cradle and hold you,

While you learn again

To just let go and relax.

Experience once again

A peace,

A quiet,

A stillness,

A timeless existence.

Time to evaluate the outcomes you seek,

Examine your inner self.

If you think this is a special place,

Yes – it is !

Just imagine,

If you could take all these qualities and thoughts,

Which Dent encaptures.

Just imagine,

Recapturing these feelings,


Any time,


To feel that peace once again.


For we all have a special place within us.

Where is your special place?


Just stop,


Breathe deeply and slowly,

Be safe in your environment.

Just close your eyes

And think about being

Transported to your special place.

Imagine just doing that.

At any time,

 It is safe,

 For you to do so.


What magic that would be.

And guess what?  

Something really fantastic.


When you know where your special place is.

So where is your special place?

Monday, 30 April 2012

April Showers Bring May Flowers

April showers bring forth May flowers.

Aim to weed out the worries in your life

As I was sitting in the garden looking at the variety of yellows and green and blues I spied a spider’s thread blowing in the wind. It was barely visible. In fact it was only visible when the sunlight caught it at the right angle to be seen. It was a fleeting moment because the gently breeze moved the thread and it was gone – invisible once again. I knew it was there but I could no longer see it.

This encounter started me thinking about the inner garden we all have in our minds.

Mary Mary quite contrary

How does your garden grow.

With positive thoughts and dreams

Or worry weeds  row upon row.

Plan and nurture yourself for a brighter outcome in your ‘garden’.

Plan to make positive changes by looking after yourself more. Practice new ways of thinking  and acting. Healthy alternatives take time to become a pattern, but just like your garden be patient with your efforts and the seeds will lead to healthy plants of thinking and acting. Plant healthy beliefs and nurture them until they have a good root system. When healthy self belief plants thrive the worry weeds have greater difficulty in taking hold.

So put things in perspective and be a calm patient gardener. Plan to plant good healthy self belief plants and root out the worry weeds as soon as they appear.

Root out the weeds of anxiety, stress, and phobias which cause poor health and self esteem. Root out the unhealthy and rigid ways of thinking. Root out the behaviour weeds such as avoidance rituals, safe patterns, perfectionism and trying hard to please all the time. Perhaps you see an anxiety weed and you may choose to ignore it, thinking that it will go away and die off. Perhaps it may eliminate itself- not very likely because it is an anxiety weed with deep, well established roots.

Perhaps you feel ashamed about an issue so you choose to ignore it, deny it or avoid it. Well setbacks are normal. Weeds grow everywhere but don’t assume the worst. The weeds can be dealt with using patient endeavour. Remember worry weeds grow best when you  are run down, under stress or when you are ill. So don’t leave the garden to fend for itself, resist your old behaviours.

I ntroduce new varieties of positive plant patterns in your inner garden. You could try new varieties such as healthy thinking, being more flexible, being more accepting of yourself, managing uncertainty and allowing mistakes to happen. The more varieties you plant the more colourful your inner garden will become with less weeds.

Life in your inner garden will flourish and be more colourful when you take positive action to cultivate it and root out the worry weeds. No garden is weed free so planting desirable plants is not enough of itself. You need to continue to water and feed your new varieties of plants. You need to keep up with the weeding in order to maintain a lovely healthy inner garden.

List the factors which enable worry weeds to grow.

Seasonal changes

Lack of sleep

Lack of activity

Hassles piling up

Little or few social interactions.

Feeling tired

Disagreements constantly

Demanding boss

Disagreeable workmates

Sound familiar?

So just be a happy gardener

Be calm

Use setbacks to plan a better response next time.

Identify the set backs and plan ahead.

Put things in perspective – look at the whole garden not just the patch in front of you.

Be compassionate with yourself.

Remember the colourful gains.

Face up to the weeds of fear and root them out.

Set achievable goals

Hang on and things will improve.

So Mary Mary quite contrary

How does your garden grow?

With lots of positive plants and flowers

Because I gave the worry weeds the heave ho.

Whenever you want help with your inner garden just contact me  on

Wednesday, 29 February 2012

March onwards and upwards

March On

Recently I have been walking around the area where I live in the South of the Lake District. I was delivering leaflets and as I was walking around it set me thinking about the ups and downs of our lives. Some of us are buried in the details and others are perched above able to see the bigger picture.

Some of the roads were small and narrow and others were wider. So is our map of the world limited to the small pathways of beliefs and awareness or is it expanded to take in the wider routes with more choices? When we meet a crossroads in our lives are we flexible enough to make those choices? It also reminded me of the many roads and pathways we walk along in our lives. Are we moving away to avoid situations or are we moving forwards in a positive direction of travel?


As I walked around I was amazed by the contrast in the places I visited. Some were well taken care of, clean and tidy and organised. Others outwardly looked cluttered. Again it set me thinking. How do we achieve order in our lives given the pressures we place on ourselves? Or do some of us just focus inwardly? We’ve given up on using our potential. Perhaps we feel overwhelmed and don’t know where to begin. Do we act to avoid and move away from situations or do we act to address our issues and so move forward?

Resources – reflection and rejection

As I walked around it was as though all the pathways to all the houses and dwellings was like visiting some of the many resources we have within us, within our map of the world. Just imagine your street, neighbourhood, village or district with each house being a resource to be used. Then all of a sudden as we picture that we realise we have lots of personal resources. Instead of dismissing them outright, be more reflective, consider your achievements, skills, knowledge, expertise, know how, experiences. Be open to what other resources you will have within you which you have not yet explored and perhaps your map of the world will expand a little more.

Just imagine going up in a balloon to survey the landscape. How many roads would you see? How many paths? How many shortcuts? My my! Just look at how many there in your map. So why limit yourself to the byroads?  Reflection lifts us out of the details. If we go high enough even a dull day will be brighter with all the various colours around. There are parts in sunshine, not clouded over. Just reflect on the resources you have and let them rejuvenate you once more.

Contemplate and commit

Just focus on your breathing right now.

Listen as you breathe in.

Listen as you breathe out.

How does the air feel going in?

How does it feel going out?

How deeply can you breathe in?  Down to the abdomen?  Just close your eyes for a few moments and just focus on breathing, perhaps for a count of ten breaths. How does that make you feel? What happens to your heart rate?  Any lower? Good.

For just a moment you forgot about everything. You just let it go. So you were in the here and now.

How good does that feel? So just do it each day. Contemplate and reflect. Commit to completing a small ten minute task each day. Perhaps relax for 10 minutes, or walk or some simple cleaning. Ten minutes is not a long time but what a difference it makes. So just commit yourself to making small positive changes because small steps are achievable. When you reflect on the good things each day you will surprise yourself. Commit to making small positive changes.

Highway or low way.

As I walked around delivering leaflets sometimes I took a high route and sometimes I took a low route. The low route can be beautiful and interesting and sometimes it is a good thing to take the low route because you see the detail a little more. This is especially useful if you usually take the high routes of life because we become too general in our ways of thinking.

Occasionally it is good to take the high route where we can see the bigger picture of the world around us. Perhaps we will appreciate seeing the bigger picture because it will help us to expand our personal horizons. Perhaps we may be able to alternatives routes. So if you are the kind of person who gets buried in the details of life, or just bogged down, just now and then take the high way, go up and then look out. It is good to try alternatives.

So this is March.

Motivate yourself.

Be active.

Be resourceful and reflective.

Contemplate and commit daily to small changes.

Occasionally just take a different route to achieve your goal – high way or low way.

Move onward just one step at a time. The journey of a 1000 miles begins with the first step.

Take that step today.

Thursday, 2 February 2012

Being Whole Again

Healthy Body
Outlook and opportunities
Learning and problem solving
Evaluation - feedback not failure

Wellbeing leads to being well. That means being well in the mind, body and spirit. As the late John Horner of Witherslack Group of Schools put it ' head,heart and stomach'. When all three work together in harmony they function positively and we are at our best. If any one of the three is experiencing discomfort then we will experience disharmony which restricts the benefits of our wellbeing.

Healthy bodies are the result of eating natural foods and having a wide variety of such foods,including fruit,veg,seeds, nuts, etc and reducing and eliminating our intake of processed foods which do not promote a healthy wellbeing. It also includes drinking plenty of water, the latest thinking being about 30ml for every kg you weigh.In addition taking part in daily activities promotes a greater sense of being well. Think of a rainbow for healthy eating and  of the natural foods to be found within each colour. Having such a focus provides learning, interest and variety. Taking just ten minutes a day of activity such as walking is a good place to start, especially if you have not done anything for a while. If you like it then repeat three times a day and gradually build up the amount of time. Just a warning if there are any health issues just check with your GP first.

Outlook and opportunities.

What's on the balance sheet ?
When we are outgoing and positive we have a great foundation for wellbeing. If we feel negative then this limits our wellbeing potential. Just try this exercise if this is how you feel.At the end each day for a week, make a list of all the good things that you have seen, heard, felt, touched or tasted. The list may be small but it's a start. The more we look ,reflect on and record the more positive we will become. This exercise will also help with our sleeping patterns.
Look for opportunities to be positive, look at the flowers growing, listen to the birds singing and feel the sun's rays on your skin. by looking for opportunities each day we will find them.

Learning something everyday happens because our unconscious mind takes in millions of bits of information each second.So when was the last time you completed a quiz,or crossword? Exercising the brain is just as important as exercising the body. The more we learn new things the better our brains will function. Why not learn one new fact each day ? Take up a new hobby or pick up an old one that you once did. Try problem solving as well because it gives our brains a good workout.

Evaluating  what we do is not about success or failure but about feedback. So as January ends and February begins what have we done to be more wholesome in 1/12th of 2012 ?

Realistically what happened to all the resolutions we made - fell by the wayside?

It takes the whole of us ( mind, body spirit) to make ourselves whole. It requires being healthy,eating naturally, daily activities, having positive outlooks and outcomes,learning and evaluation.

We  can't not change !

What could we  learn from our experiences in life so far?



Be active
Learn to relax.
Visualise more.
Eat healthily and drink plenty of water.
Learn more each day.
Problem solve regularly.

Will we be more wholesome in this an Olympic year?
Will we achieve what we set out to do and more?
Yes we could.
By doing each of the ARVELP suggestions our wellbeing will be much improved.
It starts right now, for now is all we have.

Monday, 2 January 2012

Welcome 2012

Here we are again, the end of one year and at the beginning of another.
It feels different this time because this year is a leap year and we are hosting the Olympics.
Is it new you or same old same old ?
Perhaps it's time to consider what potential a leap year could offer.
L - look at and listen to yourself
E - Examine and evaluate your life
A- Activate your mind to take action
P - Possibilities exist for a positive outcome.

Take a good long look at your personal situation. Are you well emotionally, physically,socially and are you performing at your best ?
Yes to all these situations ? Sure ?
No - then listen to your inner voice as you take a long hard look at your self.

It's time to examine and evaluate what is happening for you in your life situation. Is it time for a change ? What would you like to achieve in 2012?
See the picture of what you would like to achieve. Make it bigger, brighter ,colourful and focused. Put yourself in that picture you created. Are you calmer, healthier, interacting better, achieving your goals?

If it looks right, sounds right and senses right ....... then do it.

Take action to achieve what you pictured before. That means having realistic goals; it means planning the steps to achieve them;what will it feel like when you have achieved them ,what will you gain, what will you lose; what is the next smallest step that you need to take towards achieving your first goal ?
There are endless possibilities which could be achievable by you.With a positive outlook working towards a positive outcome who knows what you could achieve.

Too much.
Baa humbug! Bah humbug !
Seek help and advice if you want to succeed.
There are key things for a healthier new leap year.


Making that New Year's Resolution may be not quite be as great a leap as you think.

Action be achievable
Positive and successful

The journey to a healthier YOU begins with the first small step.

You can
Emerge as an
Achiever by making the
Right decisions.

Add the digits together = 2+0+1+2 = 5


This could be part of your 5 STEP PLAN

Active more - as little as 8 mins daily- think of five daily activities you could take part in at home
Relax more - think of 5 ways to relax
Visualise more - picture yourself how you would like to be- and go for it
Drink water more often - we are after all made up of over 70% water
Eat a low GI diet - cut the sugar and salt out and eat more natural foods.

Have a healthy and prosperous New Year.